This week my son had his kindergarten promotion ceremony. Yes, I’m a proud mama. There are two things that make this occasion very special for our family. The first is the fact that I have been able to be there for my son since the beginning. I have not missed one single moment in his life. As you probably already know children grow up fast. This year I had the freedom to be able to drive David to school every single day and volunteer in his classroom.
The number one key benefit of being your own boss is that you have the freedom to do what you want to do instead of what you have to do. Every day I get the opportunity to be a mom and do work that I love and enjoy. My life is simply amazing. There are days I wake up and I have no idea how I created such a great life for myself given the fact that I had a very rough start. I get to do work that I love and enjoy, while having the freedom to travel and spend time with the people I love; however, it wasn’t always that way. For more then fifteen years I was tied to my nursing career. It provided a wonderful living for me but it robbed me of the freedom, joy, and abundance I desired in my life. I spent many years doing what ordinary people do grinding at my career.
Working sixty hours a week and commuting two hours a day, I often had to wait for a manager to give me the okay before I could plan a vacation. I had to turn down a lot of opportunities to travel with friends and explore the world around me. I made a lot of money but the majority of it went back to the government. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mind paying my taxes but when you’re paying half of your income to the government it’s very difficult to create abundance in your life. What happens is you end up living pay check to pay check because the more you make the more the government takes.
The more the government takes the more you think you have to work harder to get ahead. This in turn keeps you from spending time with your children who are so precious to you. Instead your husband or nanny has to text you a picture of the great moment you are missing in your child’s life. You share the pictures with your friends but deep down inside you wish you could be there. You live with the guilt of not being around and once the weekend rolls around you spend every ounce of your energy making up for the lost time with your kids. I know exactly how you feel because I myself have been there. I also questioned is this is the only way? I want you to let you know that indeed there is another path. Living in the world we live in today, it is no longer necessary to sacrifice the people you love for the sake of your career or money.
My career had robbed me of the freedom to travel and spend time with the people I loved. I felt as if there was nothing else I could do. In order words I was stuck. I had invested so much time and energy to get to this point in my career how could I ever do anything else? Have you ever been in a job or a career where you felt that you had no other option? It’s a tough spot for anyone to be in. It took me a long time to realize that I had a choice in the matter. I could choose to live with the pain of not living the life I wanted to live or I could choose to leave the corporate world behind and create a life of freedom, joy, and abundance. By now I think you know which one I chose.
The second thing that made David’s kindergarten promotion so special is the fact that David chose to do what’s hard instead of what’s easy. When David was three years old he said, “Mom I want to learn how to speak Spanish. Can I go to a Spanish school?” I was in shock that at such tender age he knew what he wanted. I coached a lot of people and when I ask them what it is they want they have no idea. But here was a three year old who knew exactly what he wanted. I explained to David that going to a Spanish school meant he would not go to school with any of the neighborhood kids. Instead of being able to walk to school I would have to drive him to school fifty minutes away. After explaining all the pro’s and con’s I gave him a few days to think over his decision. Three days later David said, “Mom I’m ready to do it.”
David left his friends behind to pursue his dream of speaking Spanish. I enrolled him in a Dual Spanish Immersion School. He got up at five thirty every morning for a fifty minute commute to school. What blows my mind is he never complained about how hard it was. David’s graduating kindergarten class put on quite the performance for us. They sang several songs in Spanish and David is now speaking in Spanish. Watching him and his class mates sing in Spanish made me realize one thing, success is a result of making a decision and sticking to it.
Why am I telling you this? Because there are a few lessons we can learn from this young soul. The first lesson is everything starts with a decision. David not only made the decision to learn how to speak Spanish but he also committed to achieving his goal. You have to decide if you are going to continue to stick with the job or the career that robs you of your freedom, joy, and abundance. You have to decide if you’re going to put your career first or if you’re going to put your children ahead of your career. You have to decide if you really want a life where you have the freedom to to do what you want to do instead of doing what you have to do. You can continue to stay stuck or you can take the first step to creating the life you desire. The choice is yours but nothing will change unless you make a choice to do something different. David proved to me that at the end of the day you can choose to do what’s easy or you can choose to do what’s hard. If you choose to do what’s easy you will stay exactly where you are. If you do what’s hard and take the plunge towards the things you desire at the end you will get what you want. Like David you will be beaming with joy. You will be excited to show the world what you have achieved.
P.S. If you are considering taking the plunge and you want to transition out of Corporate America so you can create a life of freedom, joy, and abundance, I would love to hear from you. What is holding you back? What is your biggest fear? Please leave a comment, I would love to hear from you.