“Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it.”
M. Scott Peck
Is self-love an important ingredient to success? In our world today, there’s a big push for success. Heck, no one wants their children to get married and start a family anymore – that’s really ‘old school’. In today’s society, the big push is to be successful. And to many people, success is measured by their material possessions. The bigger your house, the more successful you are perceived to be. Even the cost of the vehicle you drive is seen as a measurement of your value. But haven’t some pretty terrible people driven big cars and lived in mansions?
Here’s what I’ve learned. Financial success is not hard at all. There’s a recipe to success and you simply follow the recipe. A sprinkle of this and a spoonful of that, and voila, you’re a success. But hold on! I’ve applied the Success Recipe in every area of my life. My relationships, my finances, my career, and now my business. Like every recipe, however, there are certain ingredients you must have in order to get the results you want. You cannot make an apple pie without apples.
One of the main ingredients for success is self-love. Yes, you heard me, it’s self-love. Most people do not think about this because successful people often tell us that to be successful you must be dedicated, determined, consistent, focused, and so on. What these people fail to tell you is you first have to value yourself. Until you can value yourself you will consistently fail. If you don’t believe in yourself, how can you achieve anything? It doesn’t matter how hard you work, or how dedicated you are, until you start loving yourself, you will fail.
Think about it. If you are making that apple pie, do you love the apples you choose as the main ingredient? Or do you think they are mediocre, borderline rotten, or not nearly sweet enough? You would love the apples you choose, right?
Why is it so important to value yourself? It’s important because the foundation of the success is you. You are the main ingredient in the recipe. What happens if you build a house without a foundation? I pray to God you know the answer to this question. Many people are working endlessly to obtain a certain level of success and they are depressed, anxious, tired, and burned out because it’s just not happening. Or if it is, it’s not happening quick enough. What these individuals fail to see is that they don’t have the main ingredient. They are trying to bake an apple pie without apples.
If you are one of those people – your pie is under-baked, not sweet enough, or maybe even too sweet – and if you are reading this article, please stop the madness and go get the main ingredient, Self-love. That’s the foundation, that’s the base, that’s the starting point. Forget all this nonsense telling you to ‘work hard and the harder you work the more successful you’ll become’. It’s all crap and has no real value. The harder you work the more burned out you’ll become and the more you will learn to hate your job or your business. The harder you work the more bitter you become, especially when all this hard work is not getting you to the level of achievement you had hoped for. However, if you start with self-love, you will be more consistent. When you are in tune with yourself, know your value, you become more committed and all that good stuff the moguls tell you to do can be done.
Do you know those people who say stuff like, “Oh, things never work out for me.” Or, “I never win anything.” Or, “If it’s bad, it’s going to happen to me.” And things are always bad for them. Do you know why? It’s not because they aren’t dedicated, committed, or have worked hard enough, it’s because they don’t value themselves.
I want you to really get this. If you want to be successful, put away everything you’ve heard about success. Look in the mirror and embrace what you see. That’s loving yourself. You can’t be dedicated, determined, consistent, and all the other mumbo jumbo if you don’t love yourself. It’s like telling a child who hasn’t yet learned to walk to go run a marathon. No, you first learn to walk, then run, and spend some time preparing and training for the race. Then you run the marathon.
When it comes to creating or manifesting the life you want, many of you are the equivalent of babies, not yet walking but wanting to run a marathon and win it. You don’t quite understand what it is you need to do or not do. You don’t understand why all the hard work you are putting in is not paying off. Well, it’s not paying off because you don’t even believe in your own abilities. Believing in your ability to be successful starts with loving yourself. When you love yourself, you start to value yourself. And when you value yourself you begin to see the world around you differently. When you value yourself, you are no longer willing to put up with the job or career that robs you of your joy, freedom, and abundance. When you value yourself, you are no longer willing to stay in a relationship that you know is not working just because you don’t want to be alone. When you value yourself, you start taking action on your own behalf. And suddenly it’s not hard to be dedicated or committed. You don’t have to practice staying the course. It all become effortless and you do it with ease. Before you know it, you start producing the same result successful people produce.
Let’s focus on the quote above. “Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it.” In order for you to even start valuing your time, you have to value yourself.
I still remember the very moment when I started valuing myself. Time became very important to me. I didn’t have anymore time to hangout with the people who made me feel like my dreams were impossible or those people who tore me down. When you start valuing who you are you don’t have a choice but to do things differently. When you start valuing your time, you stop wasting it on the people who don’t give a damn about you. You know, those people who don’t want to see you grow and be your best self? We all have them. When you value yourself, you start doing the things that are important to you, not the things that are important to Aunt Sue, or Uncle Billy.
This is what turns it around for you. You value who you are and begin to value your time. When you value your time, you use your time wisely. The universe gives us all twenty-four hours in a day to achieve all that we want. The successful people also get twenty-four hours. The difference is what you are doing with your time. Unless you value your time, you will do nothing with it.