“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
How Do You Start The Process Of Forgiveness?
Start With Embracing Who You Are
You have to embrace the fact that you are not perfect and neither is your partner, your parents, sibling, co-workers, etc. They are human beings just like you and humans make mistakes. When you can see them for the human beings that they are, only then will you have enough empathy in your heart to forgive them.
Accept The Blame For It All
Yes, my friend, it’s all your fault because you are the common denominator in all your struggles. When you change the common denominator, the equation changes. When you take responsibility for the situation you become neutral, and when you’re in a neutral position you are open to receiving guidance on how to handle the relationship.
Make A Choice To Forgive
Do you want to be weak or do you want to be strong? A lot of us have it in reverse. We think we are being strong by holding on to all the garbage of the past but actually, as Gandhi points out, the inability to forgive is a sign of someone who is weak. Ouch, that really hurts! I used to think I was strong by holding on to all of the baggage from the past but actually, what I did was place myself in an emotional prison. When was the last time you saw an inmate enjoying a life of freedom, joy, and abundance? They can’t. They are in a physical prison. But many of us are in an emotional prison. This concept explains why only ten percent of the U.S. population experiences true happiness.
What do you gain from the inability to forgive? You get to feel better about yourself. It makes you feel like you’re a better human being than your spouse but you’re not, you’re just another human like him. Your ego loves the feeling of being better than someone else. The ego loves it when you stay stuck in the past because the future that you want to create is not created in the past, it’s created in the present moment. When you are in your own prison, you cannot create anything and by making the choice to not forgive you’ve place yourself in an emotional prison.
But what are you losing by holding on to the hurt of the past? You lose your sense of peace. And a lack of peace does what? A lack of peace equals confusion and a lack of clarity. When you are not able to forgive, you are stuck in the past and as a result you lose the ability to set a course of action for the future. You wonder why you are in the same spot you were in five (or even ten) years ago.
The good news is you can change it by simply making the decision to be strong. You see forgiveness is a gift you give yourself, it’s not a gift you’re giving to your partner, mother, friend, etc. And according to Maya Angelo, it’s the biggest gift you give yourself. Forgiveness is what will allow you to access your higher self so you can create the business you are wanting to start. Forgiveness is what will allow you to create and/or manifest that amazing partnership that you are wanting to have.
Whatever it is you are wanting to create you have to set yourself out of the emotional prison that you’re in so that you can gain clarity and peace. And remember, forgiveness doesn’t change the past but it frees us from the burden of regrets and resentment.
Forgiveness allows us to move forward into the future with both peace and clarity.
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